You asked… don’t push

I am entitling this post Don't Push.  I am answering these two specific questions that are seemingly inapplicable to someone who does not have young children, but stick with me, read the whole post, there's something here for everyone.

If Graham is off his paci …. how did you do it? And what age?
I'm just looking for some tips and support!!
  Posted by:
Joy Henderson

Hi Joy!  I am currently in the processes of transitioning Graham to leave his paci in his bed.  If you know Graham, you know that he has always had two security items, a blanket and a paci.  Up until very recently I let him take both items everywhere we went. 

The blanket soon became a hygene issue for me (I think the day he insisted on having it at the pool was the last straw for me), so we started with that first.  I started making Graham leave it in his bed.  This was difficult for him for about a day and a half (during which he had to sit in his crib if he wanted to hold it).

Once he got use to it, I asked him if he wanted to leave his paci, at first he said no and I didn't push it.  Eventually, he did it.  I would still keep the paci in my purse or his bag when we went out.  ESPECIALLY at church.  Church is the last place I would make Graham go without his paci because it is the place he feels the least secure.  I don't care if people think that he is too old for a paci.  Graham is afraid at church.  He never knows how long it will be before he sees me again, and there are strange people (to him at least) constantly talking to him.

The past two weeks he has not used the paci at all except for sleep times.  I am so proud of him.  I didn't push it and he has done great.  I have heard that a paci will not effect your child's teeth until age 5.  For now, that is my goal to completely take it away (although I have hopes it will be sooner).

This is a lesson I have learned the hard way, which brings me to the next question…

How did potty training go for you? Any tips for someone in the trenches of pt? Any fun hints that worked for you?  Posted by:
Resa

My tip?  Don't push it.  I "potty trained" Elijah for about 8 months.  I tried every.thing.  When Elijah was ready, he got it.  He was 3 1/2 and almost gave me a heart attack.  He has since had about 5 accidents total and sleeps in underwear.

Nothing about it was fun because I pushed it.  I have no real tips because nothing I did worked.  I probably prolonged it in the end because I made it such and issue.

How does this apply to everybody else?

We all have someone/thing in our life that we try to control or push…
    Husband? 
    Child? 
    Friend we desperately want to come to Christ?
    Prayer we desperately want answered?
    Buy a house or car?
    Move?
    Job change?

Sometimes, you just need to stop.  Stop nagging, stop fussing, stop asking, stop whining.  Just stop.  Leave the pesrosn/issue with the Lord.  Sometimes being pushy just prolongs the process.  Act only when all signs point to readiness and quit worrying about what others think about you.

Be still before the LORD and wait patiently for him.  Psalm 37:7a

See I told you pacies and potties apply to everyone.