Amy asked… Is it hard for people to see you as yourself, or do they find it hard to seperate you from some of the different hats you wear? (pastor wife, etc.._)
I am not sure if I can separate myself from my different roles. I think that the different roles we play in life (wife, mom, friend, daughter, pastor's wife), play a huge part in defining who we are.
I have shared before that I struggle with being a people pleaser. I would be lying if I said I didn't care what people think about me, or that I didn't desire to live up to everyone's expectations of me.
As best as I can, I need to tell others who I am, not the other way around.
The best thing I can do for my husband, my family and our church is to be confident in who I am, who God made me to be and nothing else. I need to know what I am good at and what I am not good at. I think it is an insult to God for me to spend my time and energy trying to be someone I am not.
When you know who you are, what you are good at, what you like, what your priorities are etc… you are able to say yes to the right things and no to the rest. Then you live with the peace that you are being who God called you to be, not a slave to who others think you should be.