This past Sunday as we were getting ready for church and my husband was listening to his pastor, Pastor Craig Groschel (My husband never misses one of Pastor Craig’s messages). And as I was putting on my make-up, I heard Pastor Craig talking about over looking an offense. He said, overlooking an offense is a type of forgiveness. It’s choosing not to be offended by something someone said or did that hurt or angered me.
Tuesday February 26, 2013 | Marriage, Reflections
Proverbs 19:11 says, “A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense.”
Have you ever been around someone who is easily offended? It’s like walking on egg shells and its not fun. People, who are easily offended are often bitter over events they barely remember happening.
Hebrews 12:15 says, “Look after each other so that none of you fails to receive the grace of God. Watch out that no poisonous root of bitterness grows up to trouble you, corrupting many.”
It’s funny because I think I am easily offended by the people I love the most. Probably because they are also the people I trust the most. But the opposite should be true. I should be able to overlook an offense from the people I love the most because I know they love me and would not be purposely trying to hurt me.
In my marriage, I have a little rule of thumb. If my husband says or does something that hurts me or bothers me, I try to give it some time. If I can forget about it, then it doesn’t need to be discussed. If I can’t stop thinking about it a day later, I need to talk it out with my husband. You know, 9 times out of 10 (when I actually follow this rule because let’s face it, I don’t get it right a lot), I forget all about the offense. And that other 10% of the time, when we discuss it, it is well received because the conversation is not out of a place of anger.
Mastering the art of being quick to forgive is what enables me to keep any root of bitterness from taking place in my life. Ask the Lord to make you quick to overlook any offenses you may face today.