poise
I recently heard a message by Kevin Gerald about being a poised woman. The message impacted me greatly. I am definitely not poised every minute of every day but I am working towards it. Here are 5 things I am learning about being poised.
1. When I am poised, my entire family feels secure. Women, whether you like it or not, you are the life of your home. If you are scared, your children will be scared (Case in point: My mother is has a phobia of mice, so do I. My mother loves thunderstorms, she taught me to love them too). If you are tense, your home will be tense. I set the temperature of my home. If I am poised, my family can feel safe, because mom knows what to do.
2. When I am poised, I am in control of myself. No matter what the day brings, I control my own response. I can choose to freak out because one of my children spilled juice all over my floor, or I can choose to use it as a moment to teach that child how to clean up a spill or I can just clean it up myself because in the grand scheme of things, it is not a big deal.
3. A man wants a woman with poise. A woman who can handle the pressure of day to day life with out making him feel the need to rescue her from something every day.
4. Poise does not mean perfection. It does not mean I am emotionless. It means I am balanced. I am composed. I am not dramatic. My mood does not determine my reaction, my head does because I am steady and stable.
5. A woman who is poised is taken seriously when a real crisis arrives. Too often I cry wolf with all my drama and then the people closest to me don’t have any energy to help me when I have a true crisis.
Proverbs 31:25-26 She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
Comments
Well done Pst. Holly! This is a great female perspective of my Pastor’s message. I enjoy your down to earth approach to life and the way you elevate women to be the best they can be. You’ve inspired me to realize that us ‘girl next door’ gals can still be dynamic in this life in our own special way. Thank you! It was an honor to have you in our house. (Does Pst. Steven like your Betsy Johnson’s?)
Praying for you, your children and your ministry.
~M
Posted By: Mica Griggs | May 24th, 2012 at 9:14 am
Wow you don’t know how much i needed this, this morning! I love the point that Poise does not mean perfection. Sometimes i feel women as a whole think of perfection and poise being one in the same and it’s clearly not! Thank you for this today!
Posted By: Stacey | May 24th, 2012 at 9:37 am
Love it! So true!
Posted By: Marsha C | May 24th, 2012 at 9:53 am
God has given you such a gift Holly to minister to us women in so many ways. Thank you for always taking the time for sharing your heart & blessing us in the meantime!
It has been such a JOY to read your blog :-) Plus I love to share them on FB :-)
Blessings from Texas!
Posted By: Tina | May 24th, 2012 at 12:08 pm
Thank you so much for your blogs! You are truly inspiring to me!
Posted By: Margha Smith | May 24th, 2012 at 12:44 pm
Love this post.
Posted By: Dionna | May 24th, 2012 at 2:55 pm
This is awesome. I look forward to your posts and your wisdom – Thank you!
Posted By: Ashleigh | May 24th, 2012 at 7:56 pm
Thank you Holly :) this was so refreshing for me, and just an amazing reminder and challenge! Love it!
Posted By: Jennie | May 24th, 2012 at 10:20 pm
Love this! Especially #3 and #5. Learning to just relax– and not cry wolf. Trust in God’s help and not in a mans help (in regards to #3.) That’s a big one i am still learning! thanks:)
Posted By: Maria | May 24th, 2012 at 11:25 pm
This is awesome!! Thank you Holly, will be a Poised Women and working towards it in Jesus Mighty Name!! :)
Posted By: Nane Tuifua | May 25th, 2012 at 10:56 am
So true. Needed that reminder. LOVE those verses from Proverbs 31. Thank you for this encouragement!
Posted By: Nicole | May 26th, 2012 at 11:39 am
Amen …I love this!!!
Posted By: Kim | May 26th, 2012 at 1:46 pm
Great insight – I really appreciate this post! Could you direct me to his message? I would love to listen to that as well. Thanks for sharing.
Posted By: Lynne | May 28th, 2012 at 12:55 am
Wow.. I like how it also means “balanced”. I think that balance is important to us as women. We want that no matter who or wherever we are in our place in life. A Proverbs 31 woman is a wonderful example of poise.. and having that balance in her daily life and that of her family. I’m going to cut and paste and post this on my bathroom mirror. Thanks for sharing this with us. – Ps.. I LOVE thunderstorms too. :)
Posted By: Liz | May 28th, 2012 at 5:06 pm
Thank you for this inspiration. It’s applicable to women of all ages!
Posted By: Jessica | May 29th, 2012 at 10:45 am
This post must have been written just for me! This is exactly what I needed to hear! As a newly divorced working mother of three boys I find myself struggling daily to keep it together!!!! Thank you for being such a wonderful example and for sharing things like this that will help me in my daily walk. I so enjoy reading your blog and listening to the sermons online. What a blessing Elevation has been in my life!!!
Posted By: Susan | May 30th, 2012 at 12:49 am
what was the name of the message that you listened to ? I always enjoy each & everyone of your blog entries ! keep em coming ; )
Posted By: Katie | May 31st, 2012 at 9:31 am
Hi Holly,
As a pastor’s wife, I not only love this subject, but also think it would make a great book idea…so, get going on that, okay? :)
God’s continued blessings on your ministry,
Katherine Miraldi
Salem Church
NYC
Posted By: Katherine | June 6th, 2012 at 1:57 pm
I’m a little late to the comment party on this post, but nonetheless :)
Thank you for these insights on Poise. I have been thinking on that word since hearing Pastor Kevin’s message. This elaborates on that in a women-wife-mother specific way that is so helpful. The first point is brilliant and I love that – I can teach my daughter to love something with the way I respond to it- thunderstorms, exercise, eating our veggies? :)
I was there at Oxygen to hear your message on the waiting room too – that was so encouraging. Thank you for coming so far to share with us Champion women! We’d love to have you back anytime!
Posted By: Emily | June 6th, 2012 at 6:26 pm
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