poise

I recently heard a message by Kevin Gerald about being a poised woman.  The message impacted me greatly.    I am definitely not poised every minute of every day but I am working towards it.  Here are 5 things I am learning about being poised.

1.  When I am poised, my entire family feels secure.  Women, whether you like it or not, you are the life of your home.  If you are scared, your children will be scared (Case in point: My mother is has a phobia of mice, so do I.  My mother loves thunderstorms, she taught me to love them too).  If you are tense, your home will be tense.  I set the temperature of my home.  If I am poised, my family can feel safe, because mom knows what to do.
2.  When I am poised, I am in control of myself.  No matter what the day brings, I control my own response.  I can choose to freak out because one of my children spilled juice all over my floor,  or I can choose to use it as a moment to teach that child how to clean up a spill or I can just clean it up myself because in the grand scheme of things, it is not a big deal.
3.  A man wants a woman with poise.  A woman who can handle the pressure of day to day life with out making him feel the need to rescue her from something every day.
4.  Poise does not mean perfection.  It does not mean I am emotionless.  It means I am balanced.  I am composed.  I am not dramatic.  My mood does not determine my reaction, my head does because I am steady and stable.
5.  A woman who is poised is taken seriously when a real crisis arrives.  Too often I cry wolf with all my drama and then the people closest to me don’t have any energy to help me when I have a true crisis.
Proverbs 31:25-26 She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.  She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.