Are you a people pleaser? I am. We all are to some extent, and of course, we all go through seasons where we seem to get stuck in a rut of caring too much of what others think about us.
Look at these verses in Psalm 34
4 I sought the Lord, and he answered me;
he delivered me from all my fears
5 Those who look to him are radiant;
their faces are never covered with shame.
When my focus is on seeking the Lord, He delivers me of my fear of letting others down. My face does not have to be covered in shame because I can be confident that I am following His commands for my life.
I am not saying we shouldn’t seek the advice of the godly authorities the Lord has put in our lives. But I am saying we should seek the Lord first in every situation. If I go around wondering if this will hurt that person’s feelings, or if this person will be happy with me, I am putting the cart before the horse.
Here’s another way of looking at it, I can only seek to please God but I can try to bless others. And when I seek God, will show me how I can bless others.
I want all those in my life to be happy. And I want them to be happy with me. But not to the detriment of me not being able to obey the calling God has placed on my life because I am running around trying to keep everyone happy.
Matthew 6:33 pretty much sums it up
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
Spend your energy pleasing God and let him take care of the way others feel about you.