This weekend I am preaching at Elevation. Eeesh!! I have been spending time every day preparing my message. Our current series is called Mr. and Mrs. Betterhalf, it is a series on marriage and relationships. I am excited to get to teach on the topic.
I am lucky because I get to watch the greatest preacher alive prepare and preach a message every week. One thing I have learned from him (I'm talking about my husband by the way :)) is that part of preparation is just listening to other teachers. I picked up this series by Pastor James MacDonald (also known as the head Elephant to Elijah and Graham) today and popped in the message on marriage (see here).
Wow. The message was encouraging and convicting at the same time. He talked about how, in marriage, women have the tendency to nag and men have the tendency to neglect.
The part that stuck out to me the most was when he talked about speaking words of grace to your mate. He explained grace as giving something to someone they don't deserve. There comes a time in every marriage where you are faced with the opportunity to speak words of grace to your to someone you love, words they may not deserve, or, words of death, that do nothing but tear down the other person. It takes a lot of humility to speak words of grace, but those who have received grace, know how to give grace.
Jesus talked about this in Luke 7:41-43…
“Two people owed money to a certain moneylender. One owed him five hundred denarii, and the other fifty. Neither of them had the money to pay him back, so he forgave the debts of both. Now which of them will love him more?”
Simon replied, “I suppose the one who had the bigger debt forgiven.”
“You have judged correctly,” Jesus said.
You can listen to more of Pastor James' messages here.
I hope today, when you are faced with the opportunity, you will speak words of grace to someone you love.