In this blog we are discussing 5 characteristics of an uncomplicated woman. Over the past two weeks, we have learned that an uncomplicated woman is complex, not complicated, and poised, not perfect. Today I want to give you the 3rd characteristic, I am calm in the midst of chaos.
An uncomplicated woman knows that when chaos arrives, she can either add to the chaos and prolong it or she can remain calm and keep the situation from blowing out of proportion. I have a goal to become calm when I see my husband or children getting upset. I am still working on this and certainly do not get it right every time (or very often for that matter). But I know that I have the power to deescalate a situation and I am trying to learn how to put this power into practice.
How do I bring calm to a chaotic situation? Well, first is there a way I can avoid it altogether? I have know myself and my children and what my family can handle. I must learn how to think ahead and think through situations realistically so that possibly, I can avoid a chaotic situation. This means I understand and accept what stage of life I am in. If I have young (napping age) children, I am not going to attend a birthday lunch that starts at 1pm. If I am an 8 hours of sleep a night kind of woman, I know that I cannot stay up past midnight if I want to be effective at my job the next day. Learning how to subvert chaos means saying learning how no to something that sounds like fun but will have me in a heap that evening or the next day.
But when I do find myself in a chaotic situation, I have to keep my head. I have to rise above and coach myself…
This situation is really not that bad.
I will not feel like this forever.
I can handle this.
I am a strong woman.
I am bigger than this.
I do not have to win this argument.
And most importantly, I am not alone! Isaiah 43:2 says
When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze.
I can be calm in the midst of chaos because I know that no matter how difficult my situation may seem, I am promised that I do not have to handle it alone.
Next week, part 4… I may be in a high stress situation but I am not a high drama woman!