Becoming an Uncomplicated Woman part 5

Today is the last of this 5 part blog series.  We have been discussing 5 characteristics of an uncomplicated woman. Over the past four weeks, we have learned that an uncomplicated woman is complex, not complicatedpoised, not perfect, calm in the midst of chaos,and in a high stress situation but she is not a high drama woman.  Today I want to give you the 5th and final characteristic, I’m in a fight but I am fortified.

Before we get into this point, I want to make sure I clarify that an uncomplicated woman is not unemotional.  Experiencing emotions is one of the most beautiful characteristics of womanhood.  We love deeply, we hurt deeply, we feel deeply.  So while an uncomplicated woman is emotional, she is not controlled by her emotions.  She knows when to have a conversation and who to have it with.  A woman who is constantly controlled by her emotions eventually cannot be trusted.

That being said, we are all in a fight.  The battles may come and go, the enemy may shift his strategy, but we are always fighting.  Fighting for our marriages to stay strong, fighting to raise godly children, fighting for our health, fighting for our own spiritual growth.

A woman who is in a fight must be fortified.  She must be ready for the fight.  When I think of the word, fortified, I don’t think of military strategy.  I think of breast milk.  Sorry to any male readers out there.  Fortified breast milk is breast milk that has had formula added to it in order to increase the amount of calories your baby receives.  Have you fortified yourself with the Word of God?

Look again at Jeremiah 17:7-8 “But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord,
whose confidence is in him.  They will be like a tree planted by the water
 that sends out its roots by the stream.
 It does not fear when heat comes;
its leaves are always green.
 It has no worries in a year of drought
and never fails to bear fruit.”

If you want to be that oak tree and not that orchid (see part 1), you have to have roots that go deep and wide.  Did you notice how Jeremiah said the tree sent out its roots?  I have to be honest here.  Some days, I am more concerned with spreading my branches than I am about spreading my roots.

I did a little research on roots.  Did you know that in most cases, a tree’s branches can only be as wide as its roots are underground?  And in some instances a tree’s roots can extend 10x the length of its branches.  I can only be as strong as my roots are underneath me.  When the fight comes, when the storm comes, if I am fortified, I will still be standing.  Focus on your roots, not your branches! When you focus on the parts of you that no one sees, the parts of you that every sees will bear so much fruit!

When you are fortified, you are better under pressure because you get to prove how wide and how deep your roots are in Christ.  I must learn to fortify myself with the Word of God.  I cannot depend on the my pastor or my husband or my friends to strengthen me, they can encourage me but they cannot strengthen me.  I have to strengthen myself consistently.  I cannot stop growing.  To stop growing is to start dying.

So to put some practical feet to this, here are 5 ways you can fortify your faith…

  1. I keep my perspective straight.  Yes, my children have a stomach bug and they are puking everywhere, but they are not terminally ill.  We will get over this.
  2. I remain grateful.  Psalm 103, Praise the Lord oh my soul and forget not all His benefits! When I start to feel my mood spiral out of control, I stop and focus on the things I am grateful for.
  3. I regard others as more important than myself.  Philippians 2:3.  I will respond like Jesus, even if the other person is not.
  4. I make my requests to God.  A woman who is uncomplicated is most effective when she keeps her request before God.  This does not mean I do not seek counsel from the wise people in my life who know me.  I simply make my requests to God first.  Philippians 4:6-7 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.  If I would just bring my request to God – think of the peace it could bring to my life!
  5. I play my part.  I am wife to Steven Furtick, mom to Elijah, Graham and Abbey, pastor’s wife of Elevation Church.  I cannot go around comparing my children to yours, my husband to yours, my calling to yours.  I will embrace the season I am in right now and I will enjoy it.

I hope this series has been helpful for you.  My goal in writing these posts was not to overwhelm you or make you feel bad about all the times you have been that complicated woman.  I want to encourage you that awareness is the first step to change.  Sometimes just realizing that I am being complicated in the moment helps me to not repeat my mistake the next time.

My prayer is that we would be a generation of strong, godly women.  That we would grow to become pillars of strength for our children, our friends, our husbands.  That we would be examples of faith that works when the storms come.  Oaks of righteousness.