In this 5 part blog series, we are discussing 5 characteristics of an uncomplicated woman. Over the past three weeks, we have learned that an uncomplicated woman is complex, not complicated, poised, not perfect, and calm in the midst of chaos. Today I want to give you the 4th characteristic, I may be in a high stress situation, but I am not a high drama woman.
Last week we talked about knowing yourself and your family so that you can avoid chaotic situations. But what about situations that are unavoidable but still stressful? Part of becoming an uncomplicated woman is learning how to identify when a high stress situation is coming your way so that you can be prepared for it. Moving, a death in the family, caring for a chronically ill family member, caring for a special needs child, being pregnant or having a new baby, are all super high stress situations that we may face.
Can I handle these situations? Or will I cry and complain to everyone in my life about them. I have a friend who has a child with special needs and a child with a severe illness. She never complains. She never even talks about her kids issues unless you ask her about them. She is such a beautiful picture of a strength and dignity to me.
What about a stressful day? Can I rise to the challenge of motherhood (a task that I prayed for to begin with!)? Can I laugh at a tough day? Can I throw a birthday party or have people over for dinner without making my family miserable all day long as I prepare for guests? I am cringing as I write this because I have done this so many times.
I may be overloaded, but I am not going to let myself become overwhelmed. Here’s what I try and do (obviously not right every time) when I find myself in a high stress situation…
- Anticipate a high stress situation. Ex: We are having a dinner party and invited 2 families over.
- Mentally prepare myself… “I am going to straighten the house but it is going to get messy. The kids are going to mess up the play room. My floors are going to get dirty. This is ok. We will have a good time.”
- I have the freak out moments in my head. I just don’t let them come out of my mouth, or in my attitude.
- I ask for help. Whether it is getting my kids to help clean up before company comes over, or asking a friend to help me throw a baby shower instead of doing it all by myself.