In this blog we are discussing 5 characteristics of an uncomplicated woman. Last week we said, I am complex, not complicated. Today I want to give you the 2nd characteristic, I am poised, not perfect.
We all know that drama works great in movies and books, but in real life, it simply exhausts the people around you. A poised woman learns how to push past her emotions in the heat of the moment. And she knows when and where it is appropriate to release them. It is not that a poised woman doesn’t have emotions, she is simply in control of them. When a complicated situation occurs, a poised woman goes first to God, then to the appropriate people.
A good question to ask yourself is, can I deal with a little tiff without telling everyone in my life? I do not want my spouse or my friends to dread picking up the phone when they see my name on their caller id. I do not want the people in my life (my boss, my husband, my coworkers, my friends) to be afraid to give me bad news or ask me to change something in my life.
I love this verse, Proverbs 31:11-12, “Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” I want my husband, my children, my friends to trust me. I want to enrich the lives of everyone around me, not drain them.
This is not to say that I don’t have bad days, or difficult seasons, but I am like that tree in Jeremiah 17:8, “It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and never fails to bear fruit.” It is not that heat and drought and storms don’t happen to the tree, they just don’t have any long term effects on the tree’s ability to bear fruit.
Poise is not perfection, it’s strength under pressure. I want to be like that tree that is poised to stand up under what ever pressure may come my way. Becoming an uncomplicated woman means learning to be poised in the midst of an emotional situation.
Next week I will give you part 3- I am calm in the midst of chaos.