Fashion File… How to ruin a good outfit

How to ruin a perfectly good outfit…

  1. Don't iron your clothes.  If you don't have time to iron, you should probably choose something different to wear.  I know that there are those out there that subscribe to the I pull it out of the dryer and hang it up before it wrinkles theory.  And while this usually works, it is not the perfect solution (neither is the Downy spray on wrinkle releaser).  There is no point in spending money on a shirt that you won't bother to iron.  And if you hate ironing so much, you can always budget in dry-cleaning.
  2. Wear clothes that don't fit.  If your clothes are too tight or too loose it can be distracting.  Also if your pants are too long or too short.  Clothes that are too tight, or too loose can actually make you look bigger.
  3. Stop just short of completion.  Sometimes you have to give up a little bit of comfort.  I am sorry to break it to some of you, but your sneakers do not go with everything.  And ladies, if it is chilly outside, a hoodie does not compliment everything in your closet.  And you know that sporty velcro watch that you have had since college, it no longer goes with everything.  

Hope you had a great Memorial Day weekend!  We sure did.  No phone service, no internet, and lots of fun!  Picture post coming this week.  Happy Tuesday!


Giving out of poverty

Mark 12:41-42
Jesus sat down opposite the place where the offerings were put and watched the crowd putting their money into the temple treasury. Many rich people threw in large amounts. But a poor widow came and put in two very small copper coins, worth only a few cents.

Calling his disciples to him, Jesus said, “Truly I tell you, this poor widow has put more into the treasury than all the others. They all gave out of their wealth; but she, out of her poverty, put in everything—all she had to live on.”

I love how Jesus said the widow gave out of her poverty.  The lady gave more than she could. 

What does it matter to God if I only give out of my excess?  A heart that truly loves God gives when it hurts.  Because when you give where it hurts, you have to trust God to supply a need.  It's not that you are giving to prove your love and devotion to God.  You are giving because you want to be a vessel of God's glory to all those around you.

I am not sure what God is calling you to give.  It could be a finacial gift, it could also be your time, or your prayers or your service to another person in your life.  Giving out of your poverty could mean forgiving someone who doesn't deserve your forgiveness, or taking the first step to mend a relationship.

Anybody can give out of their excess, but very few will give from a place of poverty.

Worth a listen

I am a huge fan of Focus on the Family's daily radio broadcast.  It is partly nostalgic, I have vivid memories of my mom listening to Dr. Dobson when I was a kid.  She would say Dr. Dobson coached her through motherhood. 

I have said before here that the Focus on the Family app is amazing.  It keeps about a dozen radio broadcast readily available on my phone.

Yesterday I listened to Cynthia Tobias (author of They Way We Learn) talk about parenting a strong willed child.  She has written a book called You Can't Make Me.  On the broadcast she shares some parenting tips that are super helpful no matter what the temperament of your children are.  I really enjoyed the broadcast and I think you will too.

You can listen online here, or on their podcast, or you can download the app if you have an iPhone.

Monday Morning Commentarty on Tuesday

What can I say, Monday got away from me.  I could not pass up the opportunity to comment on the weekend though.  I love my church and I love my pastor :).

My husband preached an incredible message called Wrong Wells.  It was based on the story of Jesus and the Samaritan woman at the well in John 4.

He pointed out how Jesus moves away from religious rhetoric and towards hurting people.  He reminded us that Elevation exists so that people far from God will be filled with life in Christ.  I love it when he does that. 

The series, Mr and Mrs Betterhalf, that we have been in has been a relationship series.  I loved how this message was not geared necessarily to married people but to people who have may have messed up some relationships.

He encouraged us that we do not have to have a squeaky clean past to be used by God.  And that no circumstance is too hard for Him to fix– no marriage too far gone, no relationship that cannot be mended.

He wrapped it up by encouraging us that we do not have to wait until our lives are cleaned up to come to God.  And actually, the opposite is true, he said, "God wants to clean you up so He can show you off!"

The message was so helpful for many people.  You can listen to it at the Elevation Experience this week or in our Archives as well.

You asked… early ministry

I wanted to know how you dealt with your hubby going to seminary and working at church? What kind of adjustments did you have to make (i.e. budget, time spent together, etc.)? I'm pretty sure you addressed something along these lines in the past but I wanted to hear more about how you felt. What helped you get through this time? What verses did you cling to? Thanks in advance!

We moved to Charlotte in September 2005 to plant Elevation Church.  We did not take a salary from the church at the time and my husband was supporting our family through itinerant speaking.  In addition to pastoring our church, he was attending seminary.

His schedule was crazy.  He was attending seminary at an extension location 2 hours away all day, every Monday.  On Tuesday-Thursday he would work on messages, lead our staff (volunteers as well), and do seminary work.  On Friday and Saturday he would usually be off preaching at some event.  Sundays we would have church.

At the time Elijah was just a few months old and a very fussy baby.  Needless to say our life was hectic and unsure.  We didn't even know if what we were doing was working.  It was a time in our life that God was building our faith.

But here is what I want to say.  Sometimes I think God builds your faith because what he has for you down the road is even more difficult.  Kinda like you can't learn to multiply until you first learn to add.  How did we get through such a difficult time?  We took one day at a time.  God was building in us the faith and the stamina that we would need for the days ahead.

Our lives are hectic now too.  My husband still travels, he has graduated seminary but is now working on writing his 2nd book, he still has a message to prepare each week and a full staff to lead.  Instead of one child, we now have three.  And we still have days where we are not sure if what we are doing is working.  And we take one day at a time.

Matthew 6:31-34 says this
So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.

To live in the dream of "one day when…" is a deadly trap.  Do what God has called you to do today.  Tomorrow will not necessarily be easier, just different.

Monday Morning Commentary

This weekend my husband preached the best sermon I have ever heard on how to find the right person.  While the sermon had something in it for everyone, if you or someone you know is single and looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right, they really must hear this message.

Based from the story of Isaac and Rebekah found in Genesis 24, my husband drew some wonderful points (in no particular order)…

  • If you want to find the right person, you must first be the right person.
  • You may think God is not answering your prayers but he may just be answering them in someone else 500 miles away.
  • To find the right one, you must pray and position.  Position without prayer is called desperate, prayer without position is called lazy.
  • In the end, the result can be so amazing that you cannot even remember the difficult journey.
  • My story is about a much bigger story that God is writing in the universe.

You can listen to the message here today and then here in our archives.

You asked… a blast from my past

Screen shot 2011-05-11 at 11.50.00 AMI've been wondering, its good that you've blogged about your experiences as a wife and mother but I'm curious, what were you like before Pr SF? When you were teenager or younger and single? :)How was your life back then? What were your dreams, passion and etc?

Yes, this is a picture of me catching a fish at about age 9.  I grew up in South Florida and my parents loved to take us fishing and camping.  I wasn't always thrilled to go on such adventures.  I have always been more of the indoor type.  But I am so thankful for the wonderful experiences my parents gave me as a child. 

We not only fished and camped in South Florida but all over the US.  In fact, my parents took us to 49 of the the United States.  Pretty impressive, I think.

My favorite thing about this picture are the rings you can see on my fingers.  I always have loved jewelry.  I hardly ever leave home without it and apparently I have always been that way.

My parents did a great job raising me.  As a child, I dreamed of being getting married and becoming a mother.  During my teenage years, my parents taught me (among many things) to always let the boys come to me, never to chase after them. 

I remember my dad saying that I would make the two most important decisions of my life in my early 20s: Who I would spend the rest of my life with, and what I would to do every day from 9-5 for the rest of my life.  No pressure, huh?  They helped me to see that I needed to get myself in the right position to make those decisions well.  I needed to choose the right friends and go to the right school.

Somehow they were able to guide me in the right direction while making me think I was making my own decisions.  Now that was some good parenting. 

PS.  Today is my Mom's birthday.  Happy Birthday Mom, I love you.





Give away, a touch of color

Last week in my fashion file I talked about how a bright colored bangle is a great way to add color to any outfit (especially if you like to wear a lot of black like I do).  The next day, one of our staff members, Caroline Black, gave me these beautiful bracelets. 

Caroline makes them and sells them on her website, Hems and Hers.  Aren't they beautiful?  I wore one of them when I preached this past weekend and loved the touch of color it added.

I am so excited that Caroline was kind enough to give me a few more to give away to you!  To enter, just leave a comment, I'll choose two winners later this week.

Monday Morning Commentary

Holly Preaching
This Monday Morning Commentary is a unique one because I was the preacher this past weekend.  I honestly don't know how my husband continually, week after week, brings the Word of God to our church in such a powerful way.  Speaking on behalf of God is a pretty serious deal, and my husband never takes it lightly.

I preached from Philippians 2:1-13 and encouraged everyone to embrace humility and be Jesus in their relationships.  To stop focusing on what the other person needs to do or stop doing in your relationship and focus on what God wants us to do.

I must say I am glad that I just get to go to church like everyone else next week!

You can watch the message at the Elevation Experience this week and in our archive later today.

Have a great Monday!