Several months ago, God laid it on my heart to gather a small group of pastors' wives from all over the country. I wanted us to come together and encourage and inspire one another. Not a conference, a retreat. I came up with a list of ladies I know and love, ladies I follow on twitter or blog, and ladies I wanted to meet and get to know. And with the help of our incredible staff at Elevation, we pulled it off.
Last week 17 of us met in Charlotte. We ate great food, and spent many hours talking. We talked about church, family, ministry and everything in between. We stayed up later than I have stayed up since I was a teenager. We worshiped together and prayed together. It was truly refreshing. And I was honored that these ladies would clear their calendar to come to Charlotte for two days.
Now of course, I could not have that much wisdom in one room without sharing it with all of you. With the help of my very good friend, Tonia Bendickson, and the video crew from Elevation, I pulled each woman aside and asked them a question I thought you might like to hear the answer too. Over the course of the next several months, once a week, I will be featuring one or two of their interviews. They are great. You will hear from people like Amy Groeschel on balance and Jessica Cornelius on how to handle criticism. You will hear from Wendy Perez and Sheila Gerald on raising kids in the ministry, and many more great, godly women on very pertinent topics.
Before I leave you I want to share one more thing from Refresh with you….
One night we had a time of worship. I brought in my favorite speaker in the whole world, Pastor Steven Furtick. He brought such a creative word to us that I had to share his main points with you. He actually contacted several of the husbands of the women present and asked them what was one thing they needed from their wives. He gave us 7 points, and although they came from pastors and were intended for pastors' wives, they really ring true for any marriage.
1. I need you to take care of you.
-your health, happiness, your intimacy with God
2. I need you to believe in me.
3. I need you to encourage me.
-I'm with you no matter what
-I know you best and love you most
-Who cares what they think
4. I need you to help keep me focused on what really matters.
5. I need you to make our home "base," a place where I feel safe
6. I need you to pray for me.
-You know what to pray better than anyone
7. I need you to remind me of God's past faithfulness.