Friday February 27, 2009 | Reflections
For the last ten years I have worn the same perfume. Cool Water for women. I think I went through 1 1/2 bottles during that time period. I am not big on perfume but my husband is, so I try.
For Valentine's day, my husband got me a new bottle of perfume, Calvin Klein Euphoria, he picked it out himself. I love it. There's only one problem. Every time I wear it I feel like I smell like someone else. Periodically I wonder, what's that smell I keep smelling? Then I realize its just my new perfume.
I am pressing through this challenge. I know that after a few weeks of constant wear I will barely even smell it. Its funny how I never even noticed the scent of the old perfume.
I wonder what other things there are in my life that I no longer notice I do. Some things like this are good, like praying throughout the day. Other things need to stop like complaining. Habits take time to form and even more time to break. Don't be so hard on yourself if you have a habit the Lord has told you to break. Be patient, be consistent, eventually you won't even notice that you're doing it right.
Thursday February 26, 2009 | Would you rather?
Most evenings after dinner, one of us takes the kids up and does the whole bedtime routine. You know, bath, teeth, pajamas, book, bed.
The other one usually does the kitchen clean up.
Some nights, I love doing bed time. Kisses and hugs at this age are endless. And then, to come downstairs to a clean kitchen is just an added bonus.
Other nights I am done. Lets just say I have had my fill of hugs and kisses and the endless part seems more like stall tactics than an actual expression of love. These are the nights I would rather clean the kitchen while listening to music on my ipod in peace and quiet.
So, the question is, if you had to be locked into one of these jobs for an entire year, and there would be no judgment passed on you no matter what you chose (in other words, you would not lose your nomination for parent of the year if you chose kitchen clean up), which would you choose?
Oh, and if your kids are grown, you can think back, and if you don't have kids, you can think forward…
Kitchen or Bedtime?
Tuesday February 24, 2009 | Elijah, Family, Graham
Every night at dinner time I ask the boys to bring me their cups. And every night they tell me that they can't find them. Here I am, dinner is on the table and I can either go search for their cups or dirty new ones.
I hate this. I usually search for a few minutes and if I can't find them, I make a new cup.
I think sometimes sippy cups are more trouble than they are worth. All of mine leak (some worse than others). We've tried all different brands.
When I was a kid, we were not allowed to take our drinks out of the kitchen. Maybe I should just make a rule all cups must be left in the kitchen. I think its too late for that. There might be a mutiny in this house if I tried that.
Monday February 23, 2009 | Monday Morning Commentary
Yesterday we wrapped up our series with a message from Dwight Robertson. I thought the message was amazing. There was no one under the sound of his voice who could not apply that message to their life.
I think my favorite thing that he said was that Jesus' up close ministry was more important than his upfront ministry.
I think so many times we fall into the trap of believing that the ministry God has given us is not as important because it does not happen on a stage. So often our greatest ministry is directly in front of our face. Our children, our neighbors, our coworkers, our children's friends.
The times in my life where I have been the most satisfied have been the times where I was ministering to the people right in front of me rather than anticipating the people God was going to bring my way one day.
So I think the question for today is, who has God called you to minister to today?
Friday February 20, 2009 | About Me, Marriage
Once a month I take some of our staff wives out to lunch. After a very long break, we finally got together this past month. Maybe I should move our meetings to every three months because we had some really great conversations.
We were talking about how to walk the fine of balancing constructive criticism, that our husbands do want to hear, with encouragement. If all we every did was encourage, it wouldn't be real. If all we ever do is criticize, we would crush our mates.
I have learned (the hard way) that 90% of my coaching (a much better word than criticize) comes before and encouragement always follows. For me the way this looks is coaching on Friday and Saturday night, encouragement on Sunday afternoon.
On Friday I may say something like, "Babe, last week, I really wished that you would have read the whole scripture first so I could have a little bit of context." Sunday I am only full of encouragement. I am always very careful about the timing and wording of my negative comments.
Nobody wants to be criticized after they do something. It is demoralizing and embarrassing. As married couples, we protect each other. Criticism is always for the growth of the other person, nothing more. It works no matter what your spouse does.
Coach before, Encourage after.
Thursday February 19, 2009 | Pastor Steven Furtick
February 19, 2009
Today is your 29th birthday. Have I really celebrated
10 birthdays with you? It has been an amazing ride, and you are only
Today I hope you know that I am so proud to be your wife.
Today I hope you know I love you with all my heart.
Today I hope you that you are anointed by God in a very special
way. You are anointed to be my husband. You are anointed to be
Elijah and Graham's dad. You are anointed to be the pastor of Elevation Church. And you are anointed to be
the leader of a huge move of God. I hope you know that God has given you
everything that you need to complete this assignment, Himself.
Today I hope you know that you are a man of integrity.
You practice what you preach. And I don't have to say that. I say
it because it is true.
Today I hope you know that if our boys grow up to be half
the man that you are, they will be great men.
Today I hope you know that I feel privileged to walk this
journey with you. I can't wait to celebrate your 79th birthday and
reminisce about all of the amazing things we saw God do in and through our
Baby. I love you,
Wednesday February 18, 2009 | About Me, Elijah, Parenting
21 Yet this I call to mind
and therefore I have hope:
22 Because of the LORD's great love we are not consumed,
for his compassions never fail.
23 They are new every morning;
great is your faithfulness.
Its funny the things God teaches me through having kids. Recently the Lord brought this verse to mind. I was having some very challenging days with Elijah. His attitude and behavior were the pits. It seems like by the time bed time rolled around, I was none too happy to see my children gone for the night. Funny thing is, no matter how angry or frustrated I was the day before, every morning, I was excited to hug and kiss Elijah when he woke up. I always had this today will be a better day feeling in my heart.
There have been times in my life when I thought, really God, I just don't know how you can put up with me. I don't know if I will ever get it. But his compassions truly do not fail. God is not a God of second chances, he is a God of new beginnings, every day.
Tuesday February 17, 2009 | Elijah
Because I came from a family with three girls, I think I always thought that dress up was something only girls played. Well as a mother of a child with a vivid imagination, I have quickly learned that this is not the case. And although there is not the plethora of costumes for boys out there, like there are for girls, we seem to come up with many different solutions for the same few costumes around our house. I have kept my camera close by over the past few months and snapped a picture every time I see Elijah dressed up. Enjoy…
The Indian The Cabin Boy The King Santa
Rain Pirate Captain Jack Sparrow Superboy w/ cape Sleeping Pirate
Frogboy Shark Pirate Chef Captain Hook
Monday February 16, 2009 | Monday Morning Commentary
Yesterday was week four of our our series the Purple People Leader. Boy did my husband bring it! He is right in his sweet spot when he talks about having a vision for you life. His message was powerful and inspiring.
I think so many times I get overwhelmed with day to day life so much that I forget what my goal is. I loved the line dress for where you are going, not where you are. He gave the illustration of pumping gas while dressed up to attend a wedding.
I think so many times in my life I get bogged down with the details that I forget to think of the desired end result…
-In parenting, I get so frustrated with trying to be consistent in disciplining my kids, I forget why I am disciplining them. It not so they will act right in public and around my friends, its because I am shaping them into adults who understand how to obey authority (and the ultimate authority, God) because they understood how to obey their mommy when they were young.
-In my personal life, I perpetually stay in maintenance phase when it comes to my relationship with Christ, rather than cultivating, learning, and growing every day.
The message was applicable to every person, in every stage of life. You really should listen. (Its week 4 of Purple People Leader, found here.)