September 28, 2008
September 28, 2008
I took Elijah to his 3 year check up this week. They actually did the vision test with pictures. He did surprisingly well as this test requires a good bit of concentration. I was shocked. He really didn't understand the test at all and said some funny stuff.
About half way through the test, he said to the nurse, "Why can't you just bring it closer?"
Then, the best one, torwards the end, the nurse pointed to yet another black and white picture and said "What is this?" To which Elijah replied, "You tell me and I'll tell you."
So funny! You also would have thought they cut his finger off when they pricked him. He cried for 5 minutes!
I got so many great comments about my post on how to pray for your pastor. Thank you! You don't know how awesome it feels to know that so many people are praying for my husband and were so glad to have specific things to pray.
So today I am going to give you some specific things to pray for our lead church staff members. Our church staff is amazing. They take care of so many details that it frees my husband up to focus on hearing from God and preparing his message. They too carry a heavy burden for our church and our city. Remember that our church is very young. Most of the people that work for Elevation do not have a background in church work. Because of our rapid growth, our staff members are constantly trying to create systems that make Elevation run like a well oiled machine. This can be difficult and stressful.
Pray for them…
I have not stopped giving thanks for you, remembering you in all my prayers. I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better.
We are in week 2 of Visionary Love, Dream Sex and I am thoroughly enjoying this series! There is something for everyone in each message.
My biggest take away was the very last point about little foxes. Song of Solomon 2:15 says Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards, our vineyards that are in bloom.
Steven talked about little things that can destroy a relationship. It can be a little thing, such as kissing that can lead to premarital sex, or a little thing such as not communicating as a couple that can lead to divorce.
It is so important to identify the little things.
Like making and keeping a budget (you know the number one cause of divorce in this country is money). Or not holding a grudge. Speaking positive, encouraging things to your spouse rather than negative (see last Monday's commentary).
My prayer is that this week, we will each take some time to ask the Lord to identify any little foxes in our relationships, then be obedient and adjustments. Its the little things that sometimes make the biggest difference.
For those of you who read my blog, but don't live in Charlotte, you are probably not going to get this post. You may live in a city where you could write an entire book about traffic. A few weeks ago, I drove in Miami. Wow. That was an experience. The people there honk when the light turns green. No joke. But today I just have to say a few words about some trouble spots in Charlotte.
Now first let me say that I love Charlotte. There is no place in the world I would rather live. I love the size, I love the restaurants, the shops, the culture, everything. I would even go so far as to say we are pretty lucky when it comes to traffic. Yes, we have traffic, but it is not all day and it is only bad in certain places.
I think one of the perks (among many) of being a stay at home mom is that I don't have to drive during rush hour. Anyway, here are some places that I don't like to drive in Charlotte.
My husband is constantly reminding me that I have an Elevation sticker on my car and should remember that while driving. And I do. Most of the time :).
How about you, what spots do you avoid?
Yesterday we began a new series on sex, love, and dating called Visionary Love Dream Sex. I must be honest and say that I loved every minute of that message (you can listen here. If you heard it, you would know that it was all about how my husband and I met and fell in love. I just loved hearing my husband tell about our relationship. He made it sound so much more romantic than I ever thought it was!
I just wanted to comment on one line in his message that I truly believe in. About halfway through his message he said "If you don't like what you see in your spouse, change what you say to them."
I have never found anything to be more true. As women, I think we all wish our husbands would pitch in a little bit more when it comes to our home and our children. I personally have found that the best way to get my husband to do this is to cheer him on when he does something. And I try to never correct him when he is trying to help.
When he washes the dishes, if I find a dirty spot on a pan, I never hand it back to him and say "here, you missed a spot." I just put it away and if it is bad enough, I will clean it before I use it. And I thank him for helping me.
Saturday, he straightened up the house before leaving for the office. When I came downstairs from dealing with Graham, the lunch dishes were in the dishwasher and all the toys were out of the living room. I think I thanked him 3 times throughout the day for that. I really was appreciative and I wanted him to know it.
I once had a conversation with a lady who told me that when her husband loaded the dishwasher and told her she replied something like "Well blow a trumpet, I have loaded it 12 times already this week."
I am just not sure where such negativity gets anyone. Instead of lifting her husband up, she made him feel like crap for all the times he didn't load the dishwasher.
Marriage is about encouraging each other on to do better, and be better.
I can't wait for next week's message. What a fun series.
Yesterday after nap time I went to turn on a show for the boys to watch for a few minutes. When I turned on the tv I saw that there was a Project Runway marathon of a season I had never watched. I changed my mind about finding a show for the boys and decided to watch a few minutes.
Soon Elijah found something else to do and Graham was just playing around me. I heard Graham make a noise behind me and turned around to see the Kleenex box on the floor. I distracted Graham with a toy, and went back to watching Project Runway. A few minutes later I heard some noise behind my chair. Graham sounded like he was entertaining himself and so I kept watching (totally forgetting about the box of Kleenex).
Five minutes later I came to myself and turned around to find a very happy baby surrounded by tissues. I couldn't resist taking a few pictures. He must have pulled 50 tissues out of the box. I couldn't bear to throw the pulled tissues away so I filled up a gallon sized ziplock bag. Cold season is coming, no need to be wasteful.
The Lord seems to be speaking very clearly about the importance of prayer this week. Once a month a few of our staff wives and I get together for lunch. Each month I select a message for us to listen to before hand and then we discuss it at lunch. This month we watched a dvd of Jim Cymbala preaching a message called "My house shall be called a house of prayer." It was no coincidence that this was what I needed to hear this week. God seems to be calling me to a higher level in my personal prayer life but He also is confirming to me how people are praying for me and my family on a regular basis.
I can't tell you how many times in the last month I have met someone that tells me, "I pray for you and your family every day." Whenever this happens, I always want to spill over with specifics for that person to pray because I value this so much. It seems that the more our church grows, the more the enemy attacks (or as my husband's favorite preacher,TD Jakes, says "New levels bring new devils."). I value and covet the prayers of our friends and church members. I believe with all my heart that God's way of pouring out blessings, protection and grace (among many other things) is through prayer.
So in light of this, I thought I would do a series on my blog for the next few weeks about how you can pray for your pastor, his family, our staff, our staff wives and our church.
So today is part one, How to Pray for Your Pastor…
Today a fellow pastor's wife friend of mine emailed me this verse and it was so timely…
Call unto Me and I will answer you and show you great and mighty things which you do not know. Jeremiah 33:3
Yesterday was Elijah's first day of school. He missed the actual first day when he was at my parent's last week. So today he got to wear his new shoes for the first time and use his new lunch box.
He was so funny. On the ride there I was prepping him with all the necessary questions. What do you do if you want a toy someone is playing with? What do you do when the teacher says it is time to leave the playground? What do you do if you need to go potty?
Elijah said, "Mommy, what will I do if a dino comes into da room and eats da teachers, and da kids and da toys?"
I said, "I don't know, what will you do?"
He replied, "I would tell that dino to get out of da classroom!"
I am sure you can guess what we ate for dinner… my husband's favorite, PF Chang's. Steven and Eric were not home with the food at 6 o'clock but you can bet that I had an ice cold glass of Dr.Pepper. It was so delicious. Then Nicole and I raided my pantry. We ate some peanut M&Ms and Baked Lays.
Dinner was so delicious. I have not looked forward to anything like I did this meal since Christmas Eve as a child. After dinner I made chocolate chip cookies. Mmmm.
If you completed the fast, leave me a comment, I would love to know how you broke the it.
To those of you who completed the fast, congratulations. I truly believe that God honored your obedience by blessing our church with so many salvations over the past few three weeks!
Here are a few pictures of our dinner tonight…